This disorder constitutes a tragedy, a very real tragedy. In eighty seven percent of cases the person suffering from BPD has lived through trauma in childhood, much of that inflicted by their parents or caregivers. On account of this disorder they engage in behaviors which are in many ways abusive, either to themselves or to others, which means they then experience more rejection and abandonment, which are two things they fear deeply. It most certainly isn’t a case in my experience of them not being in control of their actions exactly, but rather not having certain abilities which the rest of us do have. The trauma they are put through in their childhood and youth seems to leave them with a deficit, which in turn leaves then desensitized to human connection, which they so dearly crave. It’s nothing less than tragic that the cruelty imposed on them near the very beginning of their lives leaves them condemned to a life of anguish and anxiety and distortion.