An interesting article about BPD in the workplace.
Is it him, or is it me? When up against a coworker who makes even minor interactions feel Sisyphean, it’s easy to blame ourselves. Maybe I haven’t adapted to this new workflow fast enough, we think. Maybe the editor was right to scream at me when I missed that typo. Maybe he’s just doing his job, and I’m not. It’s one thing if you’re truly slacking at the office — but even then, shouts and screams aren’t appropriate. And as Albert J. Bernstein, a psychologist who specializes in prickly personality disorders, assures us: The odds are it isn’t your fault. In Emotional Vampires at Work, Bernstein explains that passive-aggressive individuals, for instance, use “a particular kind of martial art that looks like just being nice but feels like being hit upside the head with a two-by-four.” If you work with someone who makes you feel awful even when you have absolutely no idea why, you might be up against a “vampire” — a person whose psych issue is couched so well behind an attractive façade,